Friendship Goals ?

Life is about association. Walking with the right people can be productive. The same way, your failure is sealed when you walk with foolish people who have no regard for God.Your relationship decisions are influenced by the choice of your friends. The people you know and you have access to in the days of challenges will determine whether that challenge will crush you or will be crushed by you. If you associate for long with a monkey, you will learn how to jump on trees. If you lie down with a dog, you will rise up with fleas.It is all about laws of connections and relationships.

Who is your friend? Your friend is the definition and description of your life. The future of your friend is the picture of your future. Watch the friends you have, friendship is by choice and not by force. Can you confidently introduce your friends to your parents or any of your relations your highly respect?
      Someone once said that your wisdom level is the level of wisdom of your circle of friends.Another person said that if you are the smartest among your friends, it is time to look for better friends because you are adding to them while you are gaining nothing. Friendship is an issue of life and so friendship decisions must not be subjected to sentiments. The Yoruba speaking community in Nigeria has a saying that goes thus '' show me your friend and i will tell you who you are''. They believe if your friend is promiscuous, you will eventually become one. If your friend is a go getter, you will eventually become one. The same way, if your friend is a gold digger, you will eventually become one.If friendships/association matter that much in life, here are few suggestions on how to choose right:

1. Choose friends who are go-getters: These people are serious about their goals and serious about their success. They don't treat life casually or waste time on frivolous pursuits. They take actions and get things done. If you consider yourself a go-getter, it is important you have friends who operate the way.
2. Choose friends who can bring balance in your areas of weakness: We all have strength and weaknesses-you know what yours are. With the right friends, you can tap into skills and abilities of those that have expertise in areas that you don't.
3. Choose friends that you share the same interest: Friends with similar interests simply makes life more fun. You can enjoy outings and activities together.
4. Choose friends that stretch, motivate and encourage you: choose friends that will not allow you sit in your comfort zone, rather choose the ones that will lift you up off your box, break the box, stretch, motivate and push you towards success even as he/she is moving along with you.

HE THAT WALKETH WITH THE WISE SHALL BE WISE: BUT A CAMPANION OF FOOLS SHALL BE DESTROYED.. Proverbs 13 verse 20

Values

A bar of steel was worth about $5 toward the close of the twentieth century. When the same steel of $5 was forged into horses, it was worth $10, when made into needles its value was up to $350, when used to make pocket knife blades,  its worth was $32,000, when made into springs for watches, its value increase to $250,000. Imagine the fire, pounding and bruises the steel had to go through to increase its worth from $5 to $250,000. Yet, the more it was shaped, hammered, beaten, pounded and polished, the greater its value.
             You are just like the $5 bar of steel and if you refuse to increase your value by consciously improving on your self and on your skills, you will be of the same value throughout your life. As we all know, any product or service that is not improved upon will be dumped and the ones that have been improved upon will be sought after by all because they have quality features and benefits that other do not have.
              You get paid for bringing value to the marketplace, and if you're not very valuable, you don't make much money.The burning question now is this; How do i make myself valuable?
               Here are five ways through which you can increase your value:

1. Develop Expertise: One simple way for an instant boost of your value as a professional is to develop specific expertise so that your industry recognizes you as an influencer.For example, as a traditional marketer, you can decide to up your game by acquiring digital marketing skills.This will greatly give you an edge.
2. Research Your Dream Jobs: For those that are unemployed or those that want to change career, understanding the responsibilities and requirements of your dream job will help you align your own skills, and understand what you need to bring to the table thereby increasing your value.
3. Be Active On The Three Major Social Media Platforms: Join facebook, twitter, and LinkedIn and ensure that you actively post, engage with others, build relationships and participate in online discussions, adding value with every post or response. While Facebook is a more entertainment-driven network, Twitter is simply perfect for growing into an influencer. You can post your own content, retweet things written by others and build a social presence that users respect. As you gained followers, you'll reach out to a wider audience and make yourself heard in your industry- effectively building a solid reputation. Linkedin is the most important professional network on the web.Being active here means not only setting up a nice profile but also joining groups and participating in discussions, sharing valuable insights and experiences with other professionals in your sector.
4. Find A Mentor: Identify a person who could become your mentor and help you see aspects of yourself that could be improved upon. Doing this will greatly increase your value.
5. Educate Yourself: Certifying your skills is always a good idea.Constantly educating yourself and updating your skills is a way of adding value to yourself.This could be completing a workshop/training or a full-time degree.

      
               

                          Realize that you earn income by providing value - not time- so find a way to provide your best value to others, and charge a fair price for it..... Steve Pavlina

                                    

15 Inspirational Quotes On Dreams

1. All men dream, but not equally.Those who dream by night in the dusty recesses of their minds, wake in the day to find that it was vanity: but the dreamers of the day are dangerous men, for they may act on their dreams with open eyes, to make them possible.... T.E Lawrence.

2. No matter where you're from, your dreams are valid....Lupita Nyong'o

3. A dreamer is one who can only find his way by moonlight, and his punishment is that he sees the dawn before the rest of the world....Oscar Wilde.

4. Dream as if you'll live forever, live as if you'll die today....James Dean

5. Never limit yourself because of others' limited imagination; never limit others because of your own limited imagination........Mae Jemison.

6. Never give up on a dream just because of the time it'll take to accomplish it. The time will pass anyway.

7. The only place where your dream becomes impossible is in your own thinking...Robert H. Schuller.

8. When people undermine your dreams, predict your doom or criticize you, remember they are telling you their story, not yours.

9. Tell your heart that the fear of suffering is worse than the suffering itself.And no heart has ever suffered when it goes in search of its dream.... the Alchemist.

10. A dream doesn't become reality through magic; it takes sweat, determination, and hard work....Colin Powell.

11. So many of our dreams at first seem impossible, then they seem improbable, and then, when we summon the will, they soon become inevitable.....Christopher Reeve.

12. If you don't build your dream, someone will hire you to help build theirs.... Tony Gaskins.

13. 20 years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails.Explore.Dream. Discover.....Mark Twain.

14. Do not lose hold of your dreams or aspirations. For if you do, you may still exist but you have ceased to live.... Henry David Thoreau.

15. If you dream small dreams, you voluntarily put your unlimited creativity and power in a confined prison cell.

Success In Failure

It is no secret that our worst fear is often failure.But what if failure is actually a good thing. Many of us try as much as possible to avoid failing. In fact, we are so focused on not failing that we don't aim for success, settling instead for a life of mediocrity. The fact that you've failed is proof that you are not finished.Failures and mistakes can be a bridge, not a barricade to success. Because it's not how far you fall but how high you bounce that makes all the difference. Success consists of getting up just one time more than you fall down.
   

       

One of the riskiest things you can do in life is to take too many precautions and never have any failures or mistakes. No one has ever achieved genuine success who did not, at one time or the other, wander on the edge of disaster. if you have tried to do something and failed, you are greatly better off than if you had never tried to do anything and you succeeded.If you are not making mistakes, you are not risking enough.
      Taking cues from the great thinkers throughout history, you will see that failure is a powerful a tool as any in reaching great success.As wonderful i claim failures could be, it is good for us to remind ourselves that the determinant that converts our failure to success is ourselves, what we allow to happen on the inside of us.While it is very easy to become downcasted and lose motivation when things don't go as planned, choose to use those failures as a mechanism to reset your perspective.Look at the challenges from another angle and try again.

      Failure should be our teacher, not our undertaker.Failure is delay, not defeat.It is a temporary detour, not a dead end. Failure is something we can avoid only by saying nothing, doing nothing and being nothing - Denis Waitley

Appreciate Life

Life goes by in the blink of an eye. So be sure to appreciate the many moments with friends, and family. Happiness comes when we stop complaining about the troubles we have and offer thanks for all the troubles we don't have.Happiness is not the fulfillment of what we wish for, but an appreciation of what we have.
      We humans do not truly appreciate what they have until it's gone.We only realize how much we have gained from that relationship after we call it quit.We recognize the gift of a secure paycheck after we lose our job.Our parents are appreciated after they are gone.We only miss that teacher/lecturer after we have passed out of that institution.
       Learn to appreciate what you have before time makes you appreciate what you had. You may never know the true value of a moment until it becomes a memory. Some people never appreciated the time they were bachelors/spinsters. They were always complaining about how lonely they were until they got married. After they got married, they missed being single because they never allowed themselves to enjoy those times.This also goes for married couples, who do not allow themselves to appreciate their being together, just the two of them because there was a delay in childbirth.
       Appreciation is a wonderful feeling, don't overlook it.We are so often caught up in our destination that we forget to appreciate the journey, most especially those challenging situations, circumstances and the amazing people we meet on the way.
       So as a rule, I will like us to find time often to step back from our lives and appreciate life in general. No matter how difficult everyday living may be sometimes, applying this rule to our lives will enable us to see our lives in a wider context and help us put everyday worries into perspective and give us a great sense of calm.

         Life is a gift, I accept it.Life is an adventure, I dare it.Life is a mystery, I'm unfolding it.Life is a puzzle, I'm solving it.Life is a game, I play it. Life can be a struggle, I am facing it.Life is a beauty, I praise it.Life is an opportunity, I took it. Life is a mission, I'm fulfilling it.

It Is Not Too Late

It is not too late at all. You just don't yet know what you are capable of. It is never too late to make things right, therefore contend with life and nature and take those bold steps of yours.
Do not wait until it's too late i.e when you have entered into your grave, then your chance to impart life positively would have been lost forever.No matter how far you have gone on the wrong the wrong road, you can still turn around.Believe me, you are not too old or too young to take up that offer, neither are you too young or old to dream big.
         Start today, don't say '' there's still time'' or '' may be next time''. Procrastination, they say is the killer of time. A stitch in time saves nine, so seize the moment! Opportunities are coming to you or by you everyday.Remember, today was once the future from which you expected so much from the past.
         I say yet again that it is never too late, in as much as you draw breath, you have yet another opportunity to reach for your dreams and make your world a better place.
         So do all that you need to do to get that dream job of yours.Do you know that it is not too late to undergo that surgery or start that exercise regime that would ensure you have a healthy body? How about that idea of starting a business of your own? Take action today.
         I heard a story of a young lad that wanted to become a medical doctor.But life happened and due to one thing or the other, he was not able to but instead, he became a successful and a renowned trader.Even though everybody celebrates him, he was not happy deep inside. He thought of going back to school to study medicine but then another thought of his said to him '' a forty-year-old wants to go back to school to study a seven-year course!how ridiculous?''. So after weeks of struggling with these thoughts, he had another thought that seems to dominate every other thought and argument on his mind.The thought asked him that ''if you do not go back to school now, how old will you be in seven years time?'' he answered subconsciously ''forty-seven years''. The thought then suggested to him that ''would it not be great to be a renowned trader and a medical doctor in 7-years time than to still remain just a trader after the same seven years?''.Then it dawned on him, he took steps and in seven years he became a medical doctor cum a renowned trader.

               ''For what it's worth; it is never too late to be whoever you want to be.I hope you live a life you're proud of, and if you find out that you are not, i hope you have the strength to start over.

                                          ...F-Scott Fitzgerald

Do Not Give Up

When you are hit by the vicissitudes of life, what do you do? Do you pick yourself up and start all over again because you know that difficult times will come for all in life or do you just give up totally.
        If i may say, giving up is quite easy and as i believe you know that no good thing comes easy in this life.
So don't give up,fight the good fight of faith, fight for that thing you want, be it that ''good life you've always wanted, a relationship or what have you.
        Look around you, the successful people you see around are the ones that never gave up in life.If you get yourself acquainted with these people, i am sure they will tell you how life had knocked them down times without number. But what distinguishes them from the crowd is the fact that they have mastered the art of getting knocked down and getting back up again. They are the resilient and persistent ones.
       Do you want to be successful? if your answer is yes, then i am happy to tell you that the side effect of 'not giving up' is SUCCESS. I enjoin you today to catch that fever of  'not giving up' and the ready side effect will show forth.

I will like to end on this note by quoting a famous English man, Winston Churchill. He said and i quote '' Never give in- never, never, never, never, in nothing great or small, large or petty, never give in except to convictions of honour and good sense.Never yield to force; never yield to the apparently overwhelming might of the enemy''.